THE BLACK PARADIGM
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THE BLACK PARADIGM
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What's up, what's up, what's up? It's your boy TJ, aka TJ with the sauce.
SPEAKER_02What's up, y'all? This is your girl, Ash the Great, aka Ashley.
SPEAKER_00And niggas, welcome back to another episode of The Black Paradigm.
SPEAKER_02It is. I want to send y'all, this is gonna be a disclaimer. The first portion of the show is gonna be pretty heavy. We're gonna be talking about um black femicide. And we're just gonna speak from the heart, speak from experience, and speak to the truth of what's going on in an unfiltered way. So if domestic violence, killings, self-defense, anything with violence, if you are triggered with uh statistics and facts, and if you feel like you are a heterosexual black male and you feel like this is attacking you, then you shouldn't listen to this show.
SPEAKER_00Ever honestly, if you feel like we're I'm just gonna be honest with you, because this this show, we always gonna take up for black women, especially when they are being abused, especially when they are being abused, they are being hurt. Okay? If you feel a certain type of way, then get the fuck off the stage. You don't have to listen to this podcast because that's one thing we are not gonna do. We're not going to give any type of consideration to pedophilia, to uh men harming women and races at all. Especially when it comes to black women. All right. So we are here. Um, let's start off, uh Ashley. Well, Ashley, I'll start off with my mental health um because I know I want you to go into your mental health and then go into Ashley's corner. So, everybody, as you know, like I told you guys last weekend, um, I am taking some time off work because uh it was supposed to be me being off three days, but I a lot of people at my job asked me, and basically we had a conversation, and I was talking to this black woman about mental health and everything like that, and she told me, as a black woman, love you. She told me that I needed to take a month off of work.
unknownYou did?
SPEAKER_00She told me I needed to take a month off work, I needed to grieve, I needed to process um the loss of my uncles and my aunties, and she said I needed to um basically take some time from me. So that's what I'm doing. That is what I'm going to do. I'm gonna get myself um readjusted, I'm going to replenish myself. Um and that's what is that's what I'm going to do. So um, to everyone out there that is listening to this podcast, if you have lost someone or you are going through just grieving a loss of a family member or a friend or a best friend, please take some time. You need to take that time and grieve, okay? Um, before the podcast, I just got off the phone with my cousin and we kicked it and talked about a lot of things and everything like that in our family, and basically, more families have got to understand that mental health is serious. Mental health is very serious because it can it can attack your body, it can affect the way you move in certain spaces, um, and we'll get into that later. But take the time and take care of yourself, everybody. Besides that, I have been uh watching some good, you know, little scary movies on Netflix. And uh, you know, I I am really, really getting back into my movie bag. I am going to the movies by myself. I am going to listen, everybody needs a day or two days out of the week where you do something for your motherfucking self.
SPEAKER_01Okay?
SPEAKER_00And that's the T. There ain't no no cutting. Listen, take the time and do it for yourself. All right. All right, Ashley, what's going on with you, boo?
SPEAKER_02My mental health is okay. Um, I have a lot coming up with um my parents' vomitable ceremony. Yes, I have I'm so excited about that.
SPEAKER_00Yeah. You know, I'm excited too.
SPEAKER_02Yes, TJ is coming. The family loves him. Um, he gets to meet my crazy family. Uh a lot of a lot of my friends are meeting him, like sisters in my life. So it's so important. And I think this is one of the few times, one of the first times most of all of my friend group are gonna be in one spot. It's I'm so excited. So, huh?
SPEAKER_00Is Diamond gonna be there?
SPEAKER_02Absolutely.
SPEAKER_00I'm just listening I'm I need to make sure, honey. Yes, the team is gonna be there, baby.
SPEAKER_02The team is teaming, okay?
SPEAKER_00Yes.
SPEAKER_02Um, I got a show coming up that I'm very excited about. I'm hanging out with an old friend, size roommate this weekend. My nephew is as beautiful as ever growing up. Uh, y'all might not hear him tonight. He's upstairs. But um adorable.
unknownOh, that's my baby.
SPEAKER_02Um, I can't complain. Um doing an episode like this, my problems I have are very small because I'm still here. So I can't lie, y'all. I might get a little choked up this episode for a few things, but yeah, this is uh a triggering episode for me. Very, very triggering. Um, work is work. I'm just really trying to do better with leaving them white folks off my nerves and off my head when 4 30 comes. As soon as I'm off Friday, that motherfucking work phone comes out of my bag and it gets turned over. We're gonna turn the wigs like Effie. Um, I'm back in my movie bag as well. I am a member of Regal because it's it's right here in town. So I had a date night with one of my homegirls on Friday. Me and her went to go see you, me and Tuscany. I saw for the second time, enjoyed it, enjoyed it, enjoyed it, enjoyed it.
SPEAKER_00So we'll get into that. We'll get into that later in the podcast. I forgot to put it on the notes, but uh we'll get into that later. For sure. Twice the fire.
SPEAKER_02Twice the fire.
SPEAKER_00Yeah.
SPEAKER_02But yeah, I've just made, and you got we'll we'll get into it, but my mental health is okay. You know, I am grateful. I have a job, I have family and friends that love me. I might not be where I want to be, but I'm a lot better off than some. So I'm I'm trying to fall into my season of gratitude.
SPEAKER_00And we love that. We do love that. Um you speaking on being a regal member, I am an AMC Stubbs member. So are you so do you have the Regal member card? Um, like the Okay, that's what I thought. That's what I thought.
SPEAKER_02Wait a minute. I'm an official girl. What can't say official girl? And my Crown Club card.
SPEAKER_00Hey, that's what I'm talking about.
SPEAKER_02When I go to my app, you see my little cute ass little face on there. Hold on. Show you my card. And you know I'm Bliggity Black. What? Black. So my Club card and my you can choose different movie skins. So to keep it black, I still have the shaft, the remake. I have the shaft.
SPEAKER_00Oh, I wish AMC did that.
SPEAKER_02Then when you click it, there you go.
SPEAKER_00I wish, oh my God, I wish they did that.
SPEAKER_02On my ticket scans in Regal, it's just it's right there.
SPEAKER_00Yeah. See, I got my profile picked just like that. Oh, yeah. See, I would I would I wish um AMC did that. But yeah, listen, I am an AMC Stubbs. I have, we will get into it. But yes, yes. Go if you if you got a Regal, sign up for their membership. If you have an AMC close to you, sign up for their membership because it is it's worth it.
SPEAKER_02I have um, because I pay like $23 a month, but it's worth it because I'm a movie goer. I was telling TJ and I posted about it, funny enough, funny story. For my birthday, I have gone, well, no, it's been it's been like a month. I've been doing so many things. So I was like, you know what? When you and the day you and me in Tuscany came out, right after work, I went. So I got a I usually just get if I want candy, I'll go to the Dollar Tree and get it. But I do buy icy's and popcorn in the movie, at the movie. So one thing my movie theater started doing within the last year, every month they switch flavors of icy's. And I love that because you get tired of the same Pepsi, blue raspberry, cherry. So this month I got a I got half of an orange cream sickle, then the other half was peach, then I got a small popcorn. So I went to pay, and it was a beautiful older black lady. She was just like, girl, you are this free. And I looked at her, I was like, Well, she's like, girl, this is on your account. Today, you're lucky that's I know that's right. So I had a whole free popcorn and a whole free icy on my thing. And that that made me so happy. You would have thought I hit the lotto. I was like, I know that's right.
SPEAKER_00I'm a nigga for a good old orange cream sickle.
SPEAKER_02I I listen, I love me a good I don't like it ice cream form, but I can't lie, in the icy form.
SPEAKER_00Yes. I like it in a slushy. I don't like the I don't like the ice cream, but I like the slushy and the yes, I'm a nigga for that.
SPEAKER_02I love it in the icy form. And then the peach dream, that was super, I think that was my favorite one though. I when I went back to watch you mean Tuscany again for the second time, I just got I had another free small icy on my thing. Got that.
SPEAKER_00So I seen you, me and Tuscany two times as well. So the first time I went, yes, first time I went by myself. Second time I went with my friend Chantel. Shout out Chantel. Shout out Chantel. Yes, yes. I have known Chantel. We have known each other for years. Um started off as coworkers at You Nowhere, but now we are, you know, yes, I I know that's right. When I tell you, let me tell you something. Just I'm gonna give y'all a little, you know, before we really get into the episode. I feel as a Libra, I surround, I don't know what it is, but as a black man and a black man being a Libra, I have some of the craziest black women around me. Like, I mean, like, I mean, down to the point where like these women will pull a gun out for me. Like, it is crazy. I got girls from Memphis, girls from Detroit around, like, I'm telling you, they listen, I love them down. Love them down.
SPEAKER_02I know you were talking about Terrence, Terrence. Uh uh. You were talking about Terrence. I ain't gonna give you a government. You were talking about Terrence.
SPEAKER_00Listen, when I tell you, Chantel, it was one time we was at work and it was this, it was this woman that kept on, like, she was like raising her voice, and Chantelle said, ma'am, she said, uh-uh. She said, that's what we're not gonna do. I said, oh God. I said, because enough. So shout out to Chantelle. Um, she's uh uh she got my entourage, so like entourage on AMC Stubbs is where you can um basically choose the movie for your friend if they don't have time, and then y'all can get both of y'all tickets at the same time. So shout out to AMC. Yeah, shout out to AMC Stubbs, shout out to Regal as well. So yes, baby.
SPEAKER_02There's Phoenix, but I don't think Phoenix has a movie club. But we have a Phoenix movie theater that is beautiful. They just don't have a benefits for for damn.
SPEAKER_00Didn't they just build that or something like that?
SPEAKER_02Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, okay.
SPEAKER_02It's cheaper, but being that I'm a moviegoer, it is more beneficial for me to go to Regal, but it is super nice. They have Dobie, so when I want to go see the Demon Slayer movie with uh with a girlfriend of mine named Kiana, you felt the shit in your seats. Like it was shaking, it moved and it was really good.
SPEAKER_01Okay.
SPEAKER_02But that's Phoenix. So I think at least in our area, we have mostly Regal AMC.
SPEAKER_00Okay.
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_00Well, speaking, since you, you know, let's get in, let's get into this is the moment where we start to get um, this is the moment where we start to get into it. And uh the disclaimer that we said at the beginning of the episode, um, this is we're starting now. So um, Ashley, uh go into Ashley's corner.
SPEAKER_02So with our topic for the first half of the show, or for a good portion of the first half of the show, we're talking about black women, um, dealing with black femicide. But I also want to speak on the other half of that with a lot of the deaths that we've been taking. Another death, and this is what TJ said to me off the off the record about knowing when to leave and being a woman, using that divine femininity inside of you and using what we call women's intuition. Using women's intuition as well as I think religious psychosis and and just plain old letting people convince you that the problem isn't as much of a problem as it is. We got the news this week that Tina Campbell of Mary Mary, her husband, who has been cheating on her forever, married for 20 years, he decided to file for divorce. And as you know, if you remember watching her, her sister Erica, their reality TV show, she found out he committed inf um infidelity and had a really, really, really, really bad public breakdown. And I remember watching that in real time years ago. Before, this was before Trump was even president the first time. So before the endorsing, because a lot of people fool with Erica, don't fool with Tina anymore because of who she supports politically. But again, from a relationship aspect, I just I felt so bad for her, but at the same time, I'm just like, you should have followed Jamai the first time. I bet it was the church, people around you, that convinced you to let this nigga stay in your life. And for fucking what, he filed for divorce. So it's one thing for the nigga to be cheating on you, doing God knows when the we don't know what was going on behind the scenes. This quietness is kept. A lot of the girls are talking and saying that he was also cheating on her with men. So you're not being yourself, you're not being true to yourself and you're wasting this woman's fucking time. But as a woman, you should, you know, you know, after a certain point, especially after it's been revealed the first time, I don't give a damn what the church says, I don't give a damn what your family says, I don't give a damn what his family say, I don't give a damn what that nigga say. If you can't keep nobody that don't want to be kept. Now, I'm not victim-blaming at all. Especially when we get to when we get to talking about black femicide rape, because that's a different topic. But for Ashley's Corner, I think it all ties in, ties in for me of utilizing your your woman's intuition, knowing when to leave, whether it's violence or cheating or lying or being narcissistic, or even I've had a friend of mine who recently just got out of a relationship, the beginning of April. And I feel like April just, we're starting the second quarter off with a lot of deaths, whether it's physical deaths or deaths of relationships. A lot of people are leaving or getting fired from jobs, but a lot of people are is deaf to relationships, whether with friends or with an intimate partner. And I asked her, you know, I I thought they were happy. Because, you know, people present themselves when we online. I asked her, I said, hey, you know, I don't mean to be in your business, but why did y'all break up? Y'all been together for four years. I thought that was gonna be the main married. She said, girl, he never compliments me. He's mean. I said, you know, he didn't cheat or he didn't push it. He was just like, no. But she said that was more than enough. She was just like, I removed myself because I wanted to. And because that's not what I wanted. And I said, you know what? You are goddamn right. So not and and I don't know how this time I think I'm just speaking from just things I wanted to talk about and just speaking on certain topics regarding black women and romantic relationships or relationships with intimate partners. If something is telling you to leave, leave. Was it public embarrassment, despair of self, or worse death? Leave.
SPEAKER_00That's actually going out for I'm going to add something. Um black women. You guys, as you know, we say it all the time, you guys are the blueprint on this podcast. You are the creators of life and you should be treated as such. I feel like a lot of our black women, especially in the church, and when it comes to religion, they are forced to stay in their marriages that they don't want to be in because of a community. And when we me and Ashley talk about community, that is not the fucking community we be talking about at all. I feel like that community of religious tropes and all of that, talking about you need to stay with your husband, he's paying for everything, or even if he's not fucking paying for anything, you got your own money, right? If your husband, the person that you vowed to love through sickness and all of that shit, right? If he's not doing that, if he is being a hateful, a hateful bitch to you, then it's time to leave. If he is being spiteful, hateful, doesn't regard your feelings at all, it's time to fucking leave. Okay? Because that right there can turn into something dangerous. And I know Ashley is going to get into it in a couple of minutes, but what I am saying, this is an SOS to black women. I need you guys to understand when you see the fucking signs, it's time to go. If you have something in your stomach, in your heart, if you feel like something is weird and it's been weird for weeks, it's time to get the fuck up out of there. Because these men, and I'm not saying all men, niggas, I am saying men that act just like I just said, they have a tendency to put their hands on women to do spiral out of control because they don't have the fucking emotional regard or the emotional stability to go to therapy, to get to get anything worked on, because they feel like they are the fucking prize. They are not the goddamn prize. You're the fucking prize, and you should be treated as such. I'm so sick and tired of niggas always thinking that they are the fucking prize. When a lot of times, if it wasn't for that woman that you married, you wouldn't be shit. Because as we all know, black women are the most educated in the fucking country. It's not an opinion, that's a motherfucking fact. And black women, you deserve better. There are black men that will treat you right. Yes, it is very, it is very scarce. I'll say that, it is very scarce. But a black man will show you Okay what you're supposed to be treated like. But the first time that nigga switch up or start acting weird, it's time to go. I don't give a damn who it is. If that nigga don't want to go to therapy, if he don't want to go do no fucking, you know, healing or anything like that, it's time to go.
SPEAKER_02And I'll add to that, yeah.
SPEAKER_00Go ahead.
SPEAKER_02Just even if he's not a black man, and which we're gonna get into some things.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_02You know, obviously I'm a big proprietor of go where you're love and respect it, not where you're tolerated. So if that just happens to be outside of your race and I hate when people say, oh, well, y'all don't say nothing. Y'all, you know, it's different with black, it is different when black men date outside their race. Because statistically, black men date out and marry out more than black women do. That's just point-blank, period. So when you look at the numbers, when you have a when you have a number of single black women who are desiring love and marriage, outside of the education that we have, we're the most educated demographic, but we also make more money than the men in our community, especially the heterosexual ones. So that doesn't leave you with that many suitors. So sometimes you have to venture out. Or I'm not even counting the black women who are queer. So we're talking about same-sex, you know, relationship or whatever. So just outside of all that, go where you're loving it, but go where you're loving respect it. But at the same time, at this point as a black woman, you just have to fed every fucking body. Exactly. It is you do. It's it's a we're at a crucial point in history when we're dealing with the male loneliness epidemic. We're dealing with a society and living in a country right now that's folding back a lot of our human rights as women, as women, excuse me. I'm at a I'm at a point now where, you know, you look at the statistics and you look at the laws from like 50 to 60 years ago. My grandmother had more rights than I have now. So they're pushing this trad wife agenda. They're making shows like The Handmaid's Tales and just release the testaments. You know, we we we are coming down from a week, the week that we had as women in this country, despite race, there's a six, there's a website that teaches men how to rape their wives or their partners, or just teaches men how to rape women, period. Alone in the in the month of February, this website got 62 million visits. So let's just say for every one user, they visited the website five times. That's still 12.5 million men that accessed this website. So you mean to tell me as a woman, first of all, what does that tell me? It's not every man, but it's always a fucking man. So again, you need to vet everybody. And that's leading us to our next topic, which, like I told y'all, is triggering for me. So if I get quiet or if I start crying, then that's gonna be what it's gonna be. But this is gonna seem long and it's gonna seem tedious, but I have to start this this way. We need to pay respect and we need to say the names of the women who've just been killed this month. Well, excuse me, women that's been killed this month, but just in the year 2026. And I want to remind y'all, these are just the stories that's been reported and made it to national news. Not the women in your neck of the woods, your neighborhoods, your family, your friends, women that we don't see. So let's get started. Just to show you the severity of the issues that we're dealing with. At eight months pregnant, Mr. Shanti Allen, 23 years old, was murdered by Kevin Fah, 24 years old, the father of her unborn child. He had previously been convicted of assaulting a shanti just months before her death. Her baby never took his first breath. Rest in peace to Victoria Alexander, 38 years old, was strangled, was, excuse me, was murdered by her estranged husband who gunned her down at her own workplace before turning the gun on himself. She was a licensed practical nurse. She went to work and she never came home. I want to say rest in peace to Raven Edwards. She was murdered by her ex-boyfriend in Washington, D.C., a mother of three. She had been battling kidney failure since 2025. She was already fighting to stay alive, and he took that fight from her. I want to say rest in peace to Miss Tiana Stokes at 22 years old and pregnant. She was murdered in Monroe, Georgia, weeks away from graduating from Kinnesaw State University. A man has been charged with her killing. She was weeks away from a new chapter in life. I want to say rest in peace to Miss Gladys Johnson. She was 22 years old, five months pregnant, and she was murdered by her partner in her own family home in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, which was set on fire. She was also the mother of a three-year-old daughter, two lives taken at once. I want to say rest in peace to Miss Denisha Heller, 30 years old. She was murdered by Octavius Powell, 34, who shot her execution style in a vacant apartment in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, before moving her naked body and leaving it near a dumpster covered in cardboard, a mother of three daughters, and her father said he left her like she was nothing. I want to say rest in peace to Miss Gabrielle Ayers, 26 years old. She was murdered in a targeted ambush by a known suspect in Chicago, leaving behind a baby daughter. Her daughter will only know her through photographs. I want to say rest in peace to Miss Dr. Miss Serena Fairfax, 40 years old, and she was murdered by her estranged husband, former Virginian Lieutenant Governor Justin Fairfax, who shot her in the basement of their own home before killing himself upstairs. Their teenage son, called 911, as they both of their teenage kids were home. A judge had just ordered Justin to move out. She was a dentist and a mother gone. Rest in peace to Miss Nancy Mateo Bowen, 30 years old. She was murdered by her husband, Stephen Bowen, who shot her three times in their home in Coral Springs, Florida. She was the vice mayor and the first black and Haitian American female commissioner in her city's history, was found with her body wrapped in blankets and garbage bags. She was just buried by her brother. She was weeks away from announcing the run for Congress. I want to say rest in peace to Miss Amani Dia Smith, 26 years old, and was a former Broadway child star who played Young Nala in Lion King. She was stabbed to death by her boyfriend Jordan Jackson Small, who's 35 in that home in Edison, New Jersey. She was charged with first-degree murder. She leaves behind a three-year-old son, and she had already overcome so much to get to where she is. I want to say rest in peace to Miss Bianca Huntley, 34 years old, pregnant mother of two. She was murdered while driving home from work on I-75 in Atlanta during rush hour. She tried to get out of a vehicle and down 911 before she died. Her savan was found on the medium, turning, signal still blinking. Her family said she was targeted and no arrest has been made. I want to say rest in peace to Miss Kalicia Barnes, 36 years old. Known as her stage name's Tadiddy. She was shot four times in the face while sitting in her Range Rover on the Southeast Atlanta Street at 1.30 a.m. She was 14 weeks pregnant. Her unborn child did not survive. No suspects have been named. She was two semesters away from finishing her nursing school degree. Her mother believes she was targeted. I want to say rest in peace to Miss Ashley Janae, 31. She traveled to Zanzibar, Africa to celebrate her 31st birthday with the man she was with. She was found dead. The circumstances surrounding her death are still being investigated and no suspect has been named. She went on holiday and she never came home. And these are just the ones that we know about. With a heavy heart, I want to say rest in peace to all those women. I pray for the peace of their families, though they'll never know peace to be taken out in such a way before you make it on the other side. These women were mothers, children's government officials led amazing lives. And they're gone. And I'ma I'ma say what needs to be said. I feel like black women are so disposable to everybody. It's so easy to kill us and get away with it. Black heterosexual men in our community needs help. You niggas need therapy, and if you don't want to get help, then y'all motherfuckers need to guillotine. I looked into a lot of these cases through research. A lot of these women had filed reports, but it's hard as a woman in general to prove domestic violence. My best friend literally had to go to court. It was hard for her to prove to get a restraining order against somebody who held her hostage and put his hands on her. He held my best friend hostage for six hours in her own house. So it's hard for me. I wrap my mind around this. I'm not in person to give dating vice at all, but from my own experience as a single black woman, I've gotten to a point where my peace and my safety is so important. Just to share from experience, because I can't guide and tell nobody what to do. I don't even date. My life depends on that at this point.
SPEAKER_00It is so it is so scary for black women to date because I read that what you read on the list. I read that last night. And I just couldn't. I don't think I said anything after I got done reading what you just said. Got done reading. I just sat on my bed. And I just fucking understand. How did we get here? Black men. Fucking don't fucking care about another one. Black men are so emotionally unstable. And then I think to myself, well there's a lot of reasons. Um A lot of the things were planned to break up black families. A lot of the things were if you look at it this way, look at that way, cut this way, whatever. A lot of black men are unstable emotionally. You niggas need help. You niggas need help. And it's not funny. It's not funny. It's not cute. It's not, oh well, you not no bitch. You niggas need fucking help. A lot of y'all niggas don't even need to be in fucking public. A lot of y'all niggas need to be in an asylum. Because you can't cope. You can't cope with being turned down. You can't cope. And you know, it's crazy. Watching videos of like women just walking down the fucking street and a man saying, Oh, can I get your number? And a uh woman saying, No, thank you, and keep walking. You ugly ass bitch, you bald headed bitch. That right there is the only sign that a woman needs. That is the only sign when a man, when a man gets rejected in any type of fucking way. And anger is his first move, that nigga is dangerous. When anything or something as small as, oh, I didn't get that for you today, sets a nigga off like that, that nigga don't need to be around nobody. That nigga don't need to be dating nobody. Because you can't cope with fucking reality. You can't cope with life. And all those women that Ashley just read about deserve to still be here. Those niggas are weak. That is a weak ass. That is weak as fuck. Those niggas are weak. Because they didn't take the time. They didn't take the time to say no, I don't need to be in a relationship because I'm mentally fucking unstable. Those niggas are weak. And niggas like that niggas like that either need to be in a mental facility or in the fucking ground. That's it. I'm s I I'm not gonna sit up here and be like, oh, they need no. Niggas like that need to be in a mental facility or in the fucking ground. Cause they can't cope with life.
SPEAKER_02I think I'm having a hard time when you say that because realistically speaking, how many black men will we have left? That's the sick part.
SPEAKER_00If you think about it. If you think about it, yeah.
SPEAKER_02I've had this talk with TJ so many times. For those of you who don't know, I'm 30, I turned 32 of March in March. I've never had a boyfriend, never been in a relationship. Um I'm so hard on myself. Like, I'm not finna be with a nigga that I make more money than because he's gonna be jealous of me. And most jealous men are proofless men. They're mean men. I'm not gonna get with a nigga who have all these kids because he don't have the resources. And what is he gonna do to care? It's so many things you think about as a black woman that when you're dating and when you're weighing your options, sometimes the better option is to be solo because you think about, well, damn, if I set this nigga off the right way, I can be next. You know, I, you know, we live in a community where our heterosexual men who are supposed to be quote unquote the leaders, which black people, we never were supposed to be in a patriarchal society. We are a matriarchal society, says he, but y'all want to be white men so bad, y'all forget y'all where y'all come from.
SPEAKER_00And that right there, I'm gonna let you finish. That right there, that right there is one of the biggest fucking problems that we have in our community.
SPEAKER_02It's not natural. This is why we're having so many of these incidents. It was just a nigga three hours ago in Shreveport, Louisiana, who killed all eight of his own kids. These, y'all tell black women to choose better. The birth rates are going down. More, you know, more women are choosing single life or choosing to just live life with friends because of shit like this. And let's wake it up in our com in our community. Heterosexual black male, y'all torture the women. Y'all are fucking these kids, and y'all are torturing and fucking the memories of an LGBTQIA community. You don't know who you are. You can't be yourself, you can't leave, you don't want to go to school, you don't want to make money and get it out of the fucking mud. You just want to exist on the lands of other fucking people in the community. And I'm in the point now where we don't need you niggas. Y'all say y'all violent asses on the island by y'all fucking self because it's getting to be too much. I'm so sick of reading about the black fem, the black femicide rating. When we say this shit, or when black women bring it up, you nigg it it falls on deaf ears on, well, you know, what about what about this, what about that, or it's not just it's you niggas. According to the CDC, a black woman is four times more likely to experience sexual violence and physical violence or stalking from her intimate partner. 45% of black women already per the year, 2020, this is per the year tortured for from the Connecticut Children's Hospital, have experienced physical sexual violence and stalking. Black female victims are three times more likely to be murdered by someone they know, according to an annual analysis of a homicide data. I just, and abusers are able to isolate their victims from friends and families, which can escalate or facilitate other forms of abuse. This was an issue prior to COVID-19, but became even more of an issue once the pandemic happened, knowing that women had nowhere to go. And then you got motherfuckers that put all these stereotypes in trouble so black women like, oh, we're so strong. Oh, we're this, nothing's wrong with y'all. We'll get to them later. This is why I don't fuck with you white bitches like that. Because not enough of you white feminists and white women or Hispanic women or Asian women who like to tap into our culture when it's convenient for you, y'all aren't saying shit about this either. That's why I don't believe in POC solidarity. At this point, the only person that got my back is another black woman. If I was in a room full of 100 niggas and a hundred black women, I'm gonna choose the hundred black woman every time.
SPEAKER_00Every fucking time.
SPEAKER_02This is why, you know, oh, y'all are stupid for choosing a bear. At least the bear won't rape me. I'll just mauled. I'm more like I'm least likely to get mauled by a fucking bear than I am to get raped by a man in the country that I live in that looks just like me. I've been verbally abused. I will tell my story. A nigga that I was fucking with five years ago was married, and I had not the slightest clue. When I found out, I confronted him on it, he got violent. Do you know this man called me 200 times? To this day, every number I block of him, he comes back around. I was every black, fat, nasty bitch in the book. But because you couldn't get your way, that's how you show violence. And I really want black women to understand, oh, he's crazy. He he crazy about me. We've normalized the mess of violence so much, we think that knocking your head between the washer and dryer is funny and the shit's not fucking funny. Whether it's physical, whether it's sexual, because if you say no in a relationship, no means fucking no. Whether it's verbal, whether it's mental. Niggas dating women with with mental illnesses just to make it play like she's fucking crazy. Or using religion as a religious psychosis to make a black woman think she's fucking crazy.
SPEAKER_00You know. There's so many points that we just hit on between religion, between Eurocentric values that these black men want to be a part of. Right? Wanting to be a white man in power. And number three, these niggas not knowing who the fuck they are. Because quiet is kept. A lot of these niggas like men. Quiet is kept. A lot of these niggas are emotionally emotionally unstable because you like the same sex. And you get triggered when a black woman says, Is everything okay? Or when she asks the question, Do you like men? And it throws you into a motherfucking rage. Or a church that is saying that you two have to stay together. And the members in the church keeping you together. And you're telling the members of the fucking church that this man is being a fucking weirdo. And I'm scared for my life. Oh, he ain't gonna do nothing. He just he just acting like that. He just needs time. No, bitch. He's gonna need more than that.
SPEAKER_02Or you got a nigga that's upset and beating you upside your head because they really want to fuck kids. Let's I I wanna share, I wanna share this story. I was a little girl.
SPEAKER_00Go ahead.
SPEAKER_02I'm gonna change her name out of respect, but she was an older black woman. I think I was in, I was in middle school, it was an after school program. My mom was a SimStech, so she was kind of like the administrative assistant at the place where I'm went. So I saw my mom every day after school. Um it was a lady that she worked with. We're gonna call her Miss Julia. When I say she was the embodiment of, come here, baby, I just made you a pop. When I say the sweetest older black woman I have ever met, she was just was beautiful, was just nice, warm. She used to always give me hugs. She used to always talk to me for hours. She was just the sweetest older lady. And my mom used to say, you know, she was, she had an older son and she was married, but she was like, her husband's mean. I remember one day I had to be, I was 21. So this was about 10 years ago. My mom ran into Miss Julia in the grocery store. So my mom and her was catching up, and she says, you know, how you been? How's your husband? She said, Girl, I'm not married. I got divorced. This is a woman in her 70s telling my mama she just got divorced. So my mom was like, I don't, you know, why? I got tired of getting my ass beat. Didn't know Miss Mabel had been getting beat her entirety of her whole marriage. And and as a kid, it's certain things you just don't see. Or you don't pay attention to, or you're not privy to. Like, you know, something's like right because I've seen her husband when I he was a mean old bastard. But I think the hardest thing for me especially I'm on the side of never been in a relationship. So I it's so it's a lot of things that I can't speak from experience of, but I speak through other people or what I grew up seeing. What hurts me the most is that all the women of my life have a story. Whether it's a story of getting raped, being beat up on, being verbally accosted, or by a partner, or I think about are there signs that I'm missing? Are any of my friends or my family going through shit now? I just don't see it. It makes you think every black man is beating the hell out of their wife. Or is it so many questions that I have. Or you think about, you know, I I was reading um uh comments on that post. I was just reading and reading and reading and reading. You think about that girlfriend of yours that always tells you she can't go out with you. Is it because she going through something at home? You think about the girlfriend that's always changing her hairstyles, or is it because that nigga got mad and pulled her hair out, so she has to maneuver how she wears her hair. It's like we're living to prevent abuse against ourselves. I don't know. I don't even know what I'm trying to say. I just this is I I don't even know what I'm trying to say.
SPEAKER_00I I just it's my mic was off, I'm sorry.
SPEAKER_02It's on your fine. It's all like it's shocking, but then again, it's I know what you're trying to say.
SPEAKER_00Back in the day, you know what the has the how the older people would say, right? Oh, you know, back in the day, you know, black couples, right? A lot of the men went to were in the military, a lot of men were military men, right? And they would come home, they would expect, you know, the kids to be, you know, cleaned and in the bed and dinner to be, you know, that was just kind of like the olden days. And then I got the start, I star I started to get to thinking, I was like, wow. There were periods of times where black couples, black men and black women loved each other. And then you start to look into kind of like, well, what happened? You know what I'm saying? What caused a lot of the dysfunction? Cause it was always there, you know, you always had the couples that, you know, like the the the physical violence and everything like that, right? And I hear so many stories about older couples saying, like, hey, like, you know, we've had a beautiful life and everything like that. But then you also hear the stories of, well, I had to stay with him because I had eight or nine kids and I couldn't leave, and you know, and and listen. And listening to those stories, I didn't have a job and he made all the money, and you know, it just wasn't anywhere for us to go. And you get the like you I get the thinking, like I don't want to say Well did you just like, did you give up? Or did you just it was just oh no, my mom and my dad and then or the church told me I needed to stay and I said that's it.
SPEAKER_02And I don't even think it's so much of, you know, we used because I used to be like, oh, what happened to the black community we used to live in? It was never there. And the reason why I say that, it's been all this ever since the pandemic, ever since the pandemic, I just feel like shit just we got shifted into another realm of reality. Multiverse, yeah. Shit just started coming. The things that we thought that sanctions and entities that we thought that we were protected by and facade started to fall down.
SPEAKER_00Yeah.
SPEAKER_02In the age of the Epstein files, this fucking raping website, we realized that black people fall into that too. Did you know that Eldritch Cleaver was a fucking rapist? He used to practice. I actually read excerpts from his book today. I didn't know through normal, I went down the rabbit hole. This motherfucker, who was known as a Black Panther, married to the beautiful Kathleen Cleaver, was a power couple. Motherfucker used to practice raping dark-skinned women so he can get to rape on white women. Huey P. Newton was a misogynist. A huge misogynist. He believed that women should be seen and I heard. So Martin Luther King, even though he what we don't know, and you know, it's not known that he would ever beat Coretta or was mean to Coretta Scott King, but this motherfucker just wanted proximity. He wanted desegregation so he can get proximity to white pussy. He was cheating on Coretta the entire time. So when was it there?
SPEAKER_00I think it was just at that time, it was hidden. It was an image, it was hidden, it was it was we didn't know.
SPEAKER_02I don't know. I'm just I'm at a point now where You can't believe any.
SPEAKER_00Like you can't, you know, you can't believe nothing now. Like you can't, because it is so much that, again, like you said, about the pandemic, and you know, and I always tell people, I said, it was that was a shift in fucking reality. The pandemic was a shift in reality.
SPEAKER_02But not only that, I think.
SPEAKER_00Go ahead.
SPEAKER_02You look at so many, like, I'm not a scientist, so I'm not gonna go there. Like it's it's it's but in my head, I feel like after a while as a community, as a black woman, I would say majority of my community has always been mostly black women, and if not black women, my black brothers and sisters in the LJBTQIA community, so no romance there. If we keep the track that we're going, I truly feel like after a while, evolution is gonna tell us like, hey, black men are not needed. If you're gonna act a fucking fool, if you're not contributing to the community, if you're tur if you're chastising and terrorizing everybody in the fucking community, what's the point of your being here? Like, like, I'm I'm asking, like, what's the fucking point? And and and this is what pisses me off about being a black person, a black American, just a black person in general, because I'm sure over the pond and and and our brothers and sisters from the cotton they got the same fucking issues, but I can only speak of being a black American and being a fucking woman. We don't, black people, we ain't never talking, we can't even talk about colorism without seeming, oh, it don't exist anymore. People have their purposes. No, bitch. We have been conditioned to believe the way we believe. So you're not gonna sit up here and tell me because we're fighting so hard to live under this white man's patriarchal system that violence isn't, but then again, I don't even want to blame the white man because this is a black problem. White men, they they they aren't killing they they women at the rate that we are, and it's less of us here. So they say, so I'm gonna take the white man out of it. This is a fucking us problem. You got these, you got you had three little boys from the state of Florida who raped this eight-year-old girl so bad and put rocks on her vagina. Where the fuck are they learning it from? It's this music, low vibrational ass shit. It's, you know, you had more niggas who was for saying free poo shisty. Like this motherfucker, he literally just kidnapped somebody and held them hostage. Why are we glorifying that? When you, you know, these little girls, you look at even what happened with Ice Spice, you know, they watch a badness and shit. All they do is fight on that fuckers.
SPEAKER_00Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it. Let's talk about the Zeus Network, the Zeus Network, now that's TV. That is that is a low vibrational shift that they did on purpose to shift all of these genera this Gen Z and the newer generations. That is the reason why that girl thought she could just go up to Ice Spice and say whatever the fuck she wanted to say and try to slap her. Let me fucking tell y'all something. And I'm gonna check. Y'all are gonna get fucking killed. I am telling you this right now. You are watching these fucking productions. And when I say productions, it's because these productions have security guards. These productions are actually paying these people in these fucking houses. I don't give a shit how much they got paid or get paid. But these people are getting paid. They're getting paid. They have security, they have cameras around. It's a fucking production. We are talking about productions, and then we are talking about real life. The way that that girl walked up on Ice Spice, she knew what the fuck she was doing. She talked about she didn't have to be mean. Why the fuck would you go?
SPEAKER_02She wanted the moment.
SPEAKER_00You want the moment, you want it to go viral. Now, my thing is this, because I don't. I've seen so many. I seen a video, right? I'm gonna get back to the girl in Ice Spice. But I seen a video on YouTube, and YouTube is gonna get y'all motherfucking ass a sh a shot, too. Y'all are doing this shit to go viral. Y'all are doing this shit to get likes with streamers and all of this. Everyone can't be a Cosinette. Everyone can't be a fucking uh speed. You can't. I'm sorry. You cannot be a speed, you cannot be a Cosinet. You are going up to random ass people. Just like this video. It was three, three teenagers, or I think I think they were teenagers. They went up to this grown ass man and they just started fucking poking him. First of all, why the fuck are you touching a grown ass man? First of all, why are you touching anybody? You are playing jokes and shit like that, and that man told you to back the fuck up. He gave you one warning. You kept doing it, trying to be funny. He told you to back the fuck up second the second time. When you did it again, he said, I'm telling you right fucking now, if you don't back up, some shit is gonna go down. They kept playing with him. That man pulled out a fucking gun and shot one of those boys in the goddamn stomach. Y'all niggas are low fucking vibrational. The shit that y'all watch, the shit that y'all think is funny, it's gonna get y'all fucking asses killed. I am telling you right now, people are not fucking playing. You're going up to people's cars trying to prank them and shit like that, you're going to get killed. You're going to get hurt. You're going to get put in a fucking hospital. You watching baddies, you watching now that's TV, and you think you can do that shit in the real life, in real life, you're gonna end up in a hospital. Just like that woman said here in Nashville. She said, bitch, where do you wanna go? Vanderbilt, Centennial, St. Thomas, you pick one, bitch. Pick a hospital. Stop fucking playing with these people. And that girl knew exactly what the fuck she was doing. And she was, she was, she was appalled and surprised that Ice Spice got up. Because she thought she was just gonna slap her and run away. Oh, I slap Ice Spice. Bitch, don't nobody fucking care. And Ice Spice, you are a Grammy nominated artist. You run around here in McDonald's eating. Yes, you have every right to do that. But you need security. You need security. Because here's the thing that shit could have gone left. Her friend could have pulled out a fucking gun and said, bitch, pow pow. I am so sick of this low vibrational shit when people and all of these ads in the shade room and all of this posting this shit. Like we don't.
SPEAKER_02It's just a constant nagging of just negativity. Like, and that's why, and and I've gotten flack for this in the past, but I don't give a damn. It's always been my That's why I've always been pro-black woman. I can't, within good faith, say that I'm pro-black because that includes most men. Like, I I can't because why would I represent or be out in the streets firing for motherfucking that won't piss on fire to put me out? Now beat the fuck out of me if he's upset or jealous or whatever the fuck he's feeling. Like, I can't do it. I I can't let those words like if I don't know you personally as a black man of my life, I'm not fighting for you.
SPEAKER_00Oh.
SPEAKER_02I I can't. But that's where we are. My depends on that shit.
SPEAKER_00Yeah. Because we sit up there and we fight for these, we fight for niggas, and then we find out, right? Most of the time, we find out that this nigga done beat his baby mamas, this nigga done had assault charges on fucking women. Well, he's still a black. Go ahead.
SPEAKER_02And I don't want to overlook, like, you know, how we treat trans people and gay people either, because it's just like you motherfuckers are fucking, y'all be and it's it's bigger than all that niggas gay. He can't live in this true. You niggas are just fucking mean and fucking just malicious for no fucking reason. So what? The nigga likes to wear nail polish or somebody, you know, was born in the wrong body and they express themselves in a different way once they get older. So the fuck what? Why do you give a damn with what goes on with somebody's fucking bedroom?
SPEAKER_00Because they want to be in there.
SPEAKER_02But it even even with that, like it's it has to be something new.
SPEAKER_00It's a mental, it's a mental illness.
SPEAKER_02It's a mental fucking illness. There you go.
SPEAKER_00Yeah. I'm like Niggas that pick on, that keep picking and picking and picking, that lets me know every fucking thing that I need to know about you, nigga.
SPEAKER_02It does, but it's just like I I honestly feel like sometimes I I've always wondered, you know how you've heard the saying about they better be glad black people want equality and not revenge? What if every single person of the LGBTQI spectrum just woke up and just started killing niggas just for no reason? Like, nigga, you made fun of me in third grade. You said I was a sissy pal. Like, do y'all not understand just the severity of the issues that y'all cause within us as people? Yeah. You know how many people are walking around with fucking complexes off of this shit that y'all straight niggas did? Like, I really want to understand. I really want straight black men that are listening to me right now to understand y'all are fucked up. And we're not even, we're not, we haven't even touched scratched on the surface of children. How you niggas produce all these fucking kids, y'all not taking care of them. Y'all are leaving a lot of women to be sink. Y'all are leaving a lot of women to be single mothers. Y'all, some of y'all are fucking kids. It's a lot of that going on. Me and Diamond had that talk last week about how I thought it was normal. I knew girls I went to high school with by my junior or senior that was getting picked up for fucking soldiers eight years older than them.
SPEAKER_00Oh, in high school? We would oh, high school, listen, freshman, sophomore year, we had niggas coming to the high school, 21, 22, 23. Picking them up in carbon.
SPEAKER_02Picking them up. That shit was not fucking normal. That's that's or you some of you. Niggas. It's it. I I just want to say rest in peace to those women.
SPEAKER_00Yes.
SPEAKER_02I I don't know what can be done. I'm putting a resource at the bottom. It's a lady, a young lady that I've been following for years. She used to be a fashion creator. Not a fashion creator. Um, she was just like a regular YouTube influencer, girly look books, and stuff, but she transitioned her content. She does Black Girl Unlost. She does a lot of stories that don't get picked up nationwide about black women that's gone missing, black women that've been murdered or killed. She does a lot of black women true crime, and she also has a lot of resources about how you can help and donate and what organizations to give to. But I've been following Leah Gordon for uh for a very long time. I've been following her since I was an undergrad. I think I found out about Leah Gordon in 2013. So I've been on her for a very, very, very, very long time. But I will try to do a better job about keeping up and talking about black femicide or seeing what else can be done because this isn't over. Women, I don't know what state you live in and what your laws are, but you need to stay protected. You need to protect.
SPEAKER_00You need to stay armed. Listen, armed all the fucking time. Just like I told my cousins before this podcast, we started this podcast, and I'm so sorry to interrupt you, but you you ladies, you need to be armed because these niggas are fucking weirdos and they are mentally fucking unstable. If you ever find yourself in a situation, and I need y'all in what actually just said, look up your state laws. Look up your state laws. If a nigga puts their hands on you and he's in a fucking race, don't give a fuck.
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SPEAKER_00Give a fuck. Tase that nigga. Do whatever the fuck you gotta do to let that nigga. You're not playing no fucking games. You're not playing no games and be armed at all times. Cause these niggas, they And you know, I'm not it's sad that we have to sit up here and talk about this. It is sad.
SPEAKER_02It is a sad It's sad, but I and I think too It's reality.
SPEAKER_00It's reality.
SPEAKER_02It's reality. And the other part of it, I'm numb to. You remember I told you the first time I got sexually accosted, I was 12 in the church by a grown ass man who was 18 years old. So it's just like I I I want to talk about some safety things real quick. At least this is what I do. Um, I don't really sit out in my car anymore. If I'm not at home in the parking lot, I don't sit in my car and just sit there. You don't know who's watching. You don't know if your head is in your phone or if your head, if you sleep or whatever, you don't know who's coming up behind you, who's watching. You don't know none of that. So just be wary of that and know your surroundings. Um, Uber has a women, women's driver only, which is great because you just don't know who the fuck you're getting. It's been so many women that if you look up on TikTok or Threads that's gotten in the car with male Uber drivers that showed them they dig, that's drove them to places that they weren't supposed to drive them to, that set them up. So you have to be very careful with that. Always let a friend know where you are. Me and my girlfriend, it's it's me and two girls have this room.
SPEAKER_00Yes, fire my.
SPEAKER_02Fire my so sharing location. But also, when we date all these different dudes when we're out, it's pictures and names. Where are you going? Who is the nigga? What's his name? And where are you going to be? So if something does happen, I could tell the police, hey, she was with John Jacob, Jinkelheimer Smith at 8 o'clock p.m. They were going to this mall. This is what he looks like. So you need to, somebody needs to know. If you don't want people in your bed, you have to at least have one friend that's gonna know where you're at. Um, if you can't carry a gun, if you're not licensed to carry, depending on what state you live in, there's mace, there's, you know, lipsticks or combs that have knives in them. I have a small knife in my bag that I carry, even to work when I'm not supposed to. I have a taser. I have I have a gun. I have all of that. You will never catch me slipping without something to get this heat off your bag. Um, I don't even go out in public with my headphones anymore. I don't listen to I need to be fully swear where I'm at. And if be careful with road rage, there's been a lot of women that's been killed driving or on the highway or any state or on these roads. And if you are in a situation where a nigga is talking to you, he won't let up, tell the bartender. If you're at the store, tell the representative of the store, call somebody or walk to a police station, want a security, Diego scream, something.
SPEAKER_00And I know we don't fuck with the police like that, but at the same time, if someone, especially when you're talking about road rage, if someone has road rage, bitch, look up the nearest police station. Fuck all of that. And it's kind of like a double-edged sword, right? You know, we don't fuck with the police, but at the same time, it's like, okay, well, if something doesn't, who gonna who gonna take down, you know what I'm saying?
SPEAKER_02Who's going to because then the motherfucker listen, especially when it comes to domestic, call the fucking police, put that nigga in jail. He already got one more strike and he's out. Call, put that bitch where he belongs, a fucking cell. He kills you or another woman. Yes. I am as serious as a heart attack. It's so black women. We're so socialized and trained even from childhood. Well, I don't want to call the black. Yeah, fuck that nigga. He didn't protect you.
SPEAKER_00Because that nigga that right there is what, and I'm telling you, and I'm being so fucking serious. I think that mentality right there is what gets a lot of black women hurt and killed because you are trying to protect a nigga that will never or will never protect you. You have to think logically, right? Fuck everything, whatever, what happened. You have to think logically. Has this nigga ever protected you? Has this nigga or is this the nigga that is causing the fucking damage to you? If it's you got A, B. If it's B, nigga call the motherfucking police. He needs to be locked the fuck up.
SPEAKER_02Record of that shit.
SPEAKER_00Yeah.
SPEAKER_02Let your family and friends know what's going on. And I'm, you know, I I've never been a domestic domestic abuse survivor, but I it's so many different things that goes on with that.
SPEAKER_00But I just I'm putting a black man's life in danger. Well, why the nigga, well, first of all, that nigga's putting a black woman's life in danger. What are you talking about?
SPEAKER_02No, nigga, you took your you took your own stuff down with your actions. Like, why is he putting his hands on her?
SPEAKER_00Why is he putting why is he threatening her with a fucking gun? All of that shit goes out of the fucking window. All the once I hear a nigga putting his hands on a female, everything goes out the fucking window.
SPEAKER_02And I, you know, I've always been, I Tia will tell you, I'm either all in or I'm all out. I've I'm a person I tend to not exist in the great area. Even when it comes to food, either I like the shit or I don't like it. You know what I'm saying? So I'm kind of like that, and I look at abuse in the same way because of the life that I've been blessed to live. So it's like if a nigga's an abuser in no matter the form, he's just like a predif a pedophile to me. You can't be socially rehabilitated because it's in you, not on you. Leave that bitch where he's at. Point blank, period. And if he don't hurt you, he's gonna hurt your kids. And a lot of these kids are gonna be, even when you think about, Lord, I think about Serena Fairfax. Both of them kids lost both of their parents. That nigga was too much of a fucking coward. So he took his own fucking life. If and I think about kids that I don't even have. I think about my nephew. I consider the shit I'm doing with these niggas and the decisions that I'm making because guess what? If I do so happen to become a parent one day, that child is gonna depend on me. I'm not having my child see me get my ass beat up and down. I'm not finna allow my child to think that's normal because it's not. I'm not gonna allow my child to possibly be in the world an orphan because I didn't do what I was supposed to do by protecting myself and my child.
SPEAKER_00Let me tell you something. The family that you have and the friends that you have that you that that surround you. Oh, I ain't worried about that. Listen, you ain't you.
SPEAKER_02I have a daddy that's a black Liam Neeson, but a lot of black women don't have that. They don't have this.
SPEAKER_00Yes, a lot of black women do not have that. And I think that a lot of black women that, you know, if you're listening to this podcast, we want you to understand like you have to protect yourself. Stop thinking about him. If that nigga is the one that is causing you the fucking pain, the harm, putting his hands on you, that nigga is the problem. Call the police, lock his ass up, get a get a um uh restraining order.
SPEAKER_02Or even with a temporary protective order if the protect will get granted restraining order.
SPEAKER_00Because I know in some states, I think, and I'm not for sure, so don't come. I think in some states the protective order, if you if uh a person, the abuser, breaks the protective order, it's like three or four years in jail or something like that, let that nigga know you mean big motherfucking business. So black women, again, you are the blueprint. I am so glad we had this conversation because it's fucking needed. Um, black women, protect yourself, arm yourself. And if you feel any type of just a gut feeling or just your intuitive, your your your black woman's intuition.
SPEAKER_02Listen to it, please.
SPEAKER_00Listen to it right there and then, okay? Absolutely. All right. We're gonna get through these other topics really um kind of quick because I just wanted to um damn, what the hell? There we go. Uh I wanted to say, first of all, you the birthday um is not a TikTok slang. It is a A-B E. It's not Gen Z, it's not TikTok slang, it is A A B E. And I need to. We can't have shit.
SPEAKER_02No.
SPEAKER_00Because and I think a lot of times when we try to stop explaining this shit to white people, please. Stop explaining this shit to white people. Because as you can tell, they have you the birthday has already been on Forbes.
SPEAKER_02My biggest thing is Forbes. What the fuck does that have to do with money?
SPEAKER_00Hello.
SPEAKER_02Well, it'll probably have something to do with money because y'all colonize everything. I won't be surprised if we see a merchandise line in HM talking about you the fucking birthday. Like, what the fuck does that have to do with money? Y'all colonizer.
SPEAKER_00They take our slang and they copyright it. They copyright it, they they they take it and they capitalize it.
SPEAKER_02You're the colonizer, bitch.
SPEAKER_00Yeah.
SPEAKER_02I'm so sick of hearing the two words, oh, black fatigue. I'm sick of black people. I was pulling the race car. No, it shouldn't be black fatigue, bitch. It's black intrigue. Y'all are intrigued with everything we do. We can't even have fucking afros. What the fuck is a cloud bob? Bitch, what?
SPEAKER_00It's a fucking afro.
SPEAKER_02Vogue magazine credited some white man for creating the cloud bob, and I wanted to throw up. Bitch.
SPEAKER_00It's always colonizers. I think God.
SPEAKER_02Be fucking for real. This was like, right. Like, I couldn't even laugh because it was so preposterous. But I'm just like, I really wanted to take my car and hit ran somebody over. What the what the fuck? Black people literally the word afro have been in the American lexicon, truthfully speaking, since the 60s, right at right when the civil rights movement started. Probably before then, but I think if I read it correctly, I read it from um a black archive website. I think the word afro has been in the American lexicon since the early, early, like 1959 to 1960s. What the fuck are we talking about? And if you want to be fancy, take the A off that bitch and call it a fro.
SPEAKER_00Let me just look this shit up because I want what is the history of the apple.
SPEAKER_02And they use a picture of Tracy Ellis Ross, which was even more diabolical.
SPEAKER_001960. You were correct. 1960s. Yeah. And then they put a picture, yes, they put a picture of Tracy Ellis Ross. What if we just start calling y'all straight hair thin spaghetti?
SPEAKER_02Like, girl, take that froppy dumpy and go on somewhere, bit. Because I'm sick of that.
SPEAKER_00Let's just thin spaghetti noodles. How about that? Yeah, a picture of a Sydney Sweeney with her fucking um her straight hair. Come on, thin spaghetti noodles.
SPEAKER_02Like, girl, get the fuck. I'm so sick.
SPEAKER_00Um next up, Japanese uh people talking about basically black DNA, black genetics, and you know, so here's the thing. There was a, I don't know if I saved the video, but um, I think I did. Hold on.
SPEAKER_02That was not the video, y'all. Sorry about that.
SPEAKER_00I love you, friend. I can't. Hold on. Let me see. If I can find I be, I gotta stop saving all these fucking videos because I'd be it'd be so much to talk about, and I just be like, listen, we gotta, we gotta just skim this shit down. Uh fuck guys. I love me some Cardi B. I swear to God, I love Cardi B.
SPEAKER_02She literally is the best, she set a record. She, after her tour wrapped up, she set the record as like the highest grossing female rapper tour.
SPEAKER_00I think that debut, yeah.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, she sold 435,000 tickets and made like 70 million. Congratulations to Cardi B. I wish I could have been there, but girl, next time I got you.
SPEAKER_00Yeah. Did I say was it on Instagram? And shout out to Brandy. Shout out to fucking Brandy for, I know we talked about her last week, uh, her number one book, New York Times Bestseller, Phases. Um, but also just all the accolades that she's getting right now. I think she's gonna be the Lifetime Achievement Award uh at BET. Um, so shout out to Brandy. Uh hold on, hold on, hold on. Damn, hold on. I wanna find it, y'all. I really want to find it. Because this man had a clear description on basically what, like, it was a whole thread about like Japanese people, like kind of like basically in one way saying that, you know, oh my god, like they are, you know, they're so beautiful to look at, but then also they're kind of scared. You know what I'm saying? The body types of black, you know, black people, period.
SPEAKER_02It was a this guy started off making Twitter rant, and I can't lie, the shit kind of read like fan fiction, but it just weirded me out. Y'all think our skeletal build is different? Like, these are the types of accusations about being scared that he's seen so many black people in Japan or that they're that we're scared. Like, this is shit that causes legislation to be changed.
SPEAKER_00Yeah.
SPEAKER_02And to say that shit in the times that we're living in when you where you have a horse snake motherfucker like RFK that wants to put black autistic children in camps, and he specified black. Like, do you know why aren't you mad at white people? They're the ones who bombed Hiroshima. But you you scared of black folks though.
SPEAKER_00But you know what? That's what happens when colonization happens. Because you can strictly tell the people on this thread have never, they they want to be something. And they their proximity is to whiteness.
SPEAKER_01Crazy work.
SPEAKER_00It's just crazy work. Um, I'm gonna find that video later. Um, it'll probably be on the next episode. But yes, the man had a just a beautiful, like eloquently, like just um synopsis on just like the whole thread and what they were talking about. And I'll say this. When we talk about black people, the DNA are genetics. Yeah, they I mean our hair grows in gravity, like it's different. We are different. We are the fucking blueprint, you know. We we it it is, it's true. You know what I'm saying? It is, but also we don't fuck with anybody. That's what y'all see. That's the thing. As a group, we don't fuck with anybody. We let y'all do y'all own thing. We just want to be left the fuck alone. We ain't never bombed no fucking country. Black people ain't never colonized the fucking nation. But see, y'all always have black people in your fucking mouths because you can't stand the fact that black people throughout history, we are always going to find a way to smile and laugh and have joy. And that is something that you couldn't imagine. So, with that being said, I'm gonna move on to the next topic. It's just golly, man. Um, what was that? What we have, what we got, we got. Um, oh, Sierra Miller. First of all, let me tell you something. Sierra Miller, she is, and I don't want, listen, Sierra Miller is giving, getting like the Olandria, like Yeah. It is giving Olandria like dest, like not destiny swap, but it is giving Olandria um just 2.0. 2.0, yes. The fact, and and I'll say this, Sierra Miller, stop messing with white men, okay? It honestly, just leave men alone, period.
SPEAKER_02But even if you were, I'm gonna mess with white men on no fucking reality show where you're one of like alone not in that circle.
SPEAKER_00No.
SPEAKER_02It's clear that you need to brownie your fucking net and leave this this is why I don't have white friends, like, not to say that this is a thing that white women do, but that was just malicious. I don't really have white women friends for that reason.
SPEAKER_00Yeah.
SPEAKER_02And I think I was jealous of you.
SPEAKER_00Yeah. And that hello. Hello, and she thought she was deprived. She thought she was deprived. She did all that. She sat there, and we talked about it, I think, a couple episodes ago. The girl sat there, listened to you, listened to your hardships, your stories, seen you crying, was there hugging you and all. And now she's sleeping with her ex-boyfriend. Shout out to Sierra Miller. I know this reunion is going to be one full of fucking books. Um, they're talking about they might have to just cancel and re-reboot the whole series because everybody, half of like most of the cast, 90% of the cast, is like trying to boot the other two uh off the cast. Not Sierra, but the ones that cheated, you know?
SPEAKER_02Yeah, as they fucking should.
SPEAKER_00Yeah. So they're saying they might have to reboot the whole series or they just might have to get rid of those two. But anywho, uh, that's up to Bravo and them motherfuckers over there. Um shout out to Sierra Miller, Glamour uh magazine. You are the prize, you beautiful black women that you are. All right. We just this is just like black women all day, baby. Um we already talked about Ice Spice and um that girl, so Usher and Chris Brown. Tor. Are you going to it?
SPEAKER_02I'm thinking about it, but then again, I don't fucking know. I'm just I'm so torn because I initially when I first heard it, it's like, oh, I want to see Usher perform. Never heard him, never seen him. But then it's just like you think about who didn't lie to, the abuse, and it's like I in that quick second, I fucking forgot, and I'm just like, I can't have shit.
SPEAKER_00The RB tour starring Usher Raymond and Chris Brown. Chris Brown and Usher are coming to Nissan Stadium on Saturday, July 25th for the RB tour, which duh Raymond and Brown, you know, because that that was kind of I ain't gonna lie, that was a good marketing. They ate that. I'm not gonna lie. But at the same time, someone asked me, they were like, Are you going? Fuck no. I'm sorry, I'm not going. I don't care. I don't care too much um about really Chris Brown or Love Usher, but it's a lot of things have I I it ugh. I don't know, man. It's just you want to root. And as a black man, right, I want to root for other black men, but then I see shit like this, just like we talked about. He has been a past abuser, and everyone's like, well, Rihanna forgave him. That's not the only woman. But at the same time, you know, people, he's been selling out tours. He's been selling out, you know what I'm saying? He just got off what the breezy bowl or whatever that's sold out. Listen, y'all do what y'all want to do with y'all money. But I'm not, I'm not going. I'm just not. I just can't. So, yes, but the RB tour is coming to Nissan Stadium. If you want to get your tickets, um, it'll be Saturday, July 25th.
SPEAKER_02Pre-sale goes on this week.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, I think pre-sale's, yeah, pre-sale. I know a lot of women that I that are my friends that are purchasing tickets. So, you know, and I try not to be a downer. I really do.
SPEAKER_02I try not to be like It's such a divide because it's like you don't even want to say you going because the way that women are in the comments, oh, that bitch is a bird. It's like it's definitely a divide. I've seen it 50-50, you know.
SPEAKER_00It is a divide.
SPEAKER_02Oh, okay. But I mean, I understand. I understand it from the other side. I do.
SPEAKER_00Yeah. Yeah. All right. Well, um, in other news, Caitlin Jenner.
SPEAKER_02Watery wet. Water is ugly wet. Bitch, ice is all in the bitch who don't ice. Listen, there's grass outside. Like, shit sinks. I hope you know that. Like you dumb bitch. voted against your own fucking interest, bitch. You are a trans woman. But guess what? That fucking passport, huh? She's a lady. He's a lady. Bitch, a man. That's what Trump sees you as. But you voted for that though. Oh God.
SPEAKER_00MAGASTAR flame for asking Trump to fix her passport gender. Who would a fucking star?
SPEAKER_02You think I bet Trump looked at that shit and hollered. Him, Peter Till, Hedge Death, um, couchfucker Vance, ain't nobody trying to do that. They were laughing at you.
SPEAKER_00They wanted your support to get the other people to vote. You were a good thing. You were a tool, bitch. You were a tool that they used and they have no need for anymore at all. By Caitlin Jenner. Wow. And then you get on, first of all, you get on here with motherfucking um Tammy, Tommy, uh what uh Tamara Tia Tamara, I'm sorry. Like, what what are we doing? What are we doing? We get she gets she gets on here with this, this, this, this bum fuck. And talking about, well, I just, I just called he's not picking up the phone. Girl. He's too busy shitting in his pants. I'm sorry. He's not picking up the phone. Alright. Oh have mercy, God. Moving on the black business one-on-one.
SPEAKER_02Yes.
SPEAKER_00Yes, come on with the black business.
SPEAKER_02I actually ordered and I'm so so so so so so so excited. I found this young man today actually I was scrolling on TikTok. His smile came across my timeline. Such an infectious smile I want to give a shout out to Crunch with a purpose. More Crunch. Marcus, the founder of More Crunch, is an artistic entrepreneur who built his business one batch at a time. For a kid who often sat alone at the table and wasn't always invited to the parties this journey is about more than food. It's about creating something of its own welcoming everyone in and turning determination into opportunity. This young man, excuse me, Mr. Marcus Moore, he owns a pretzel company and I love pretzels. I love snacking and again it's so inspirational to see what he's doing and saying that no matter what, I have my spot in my lane and I'm doing it with his beautiful smile. He has some of the flavors he has cinnamon sugar a lot of reviews uh garlic ranch, buffalo, maryland crab, sour cream and onion. I got the cartoon I want to try all of them. I'm so excited this young man has um a lot of reviews amazing reviews and he has like his own crew t-shirt and his own stickers and I just I'm so proud of this young man. Despite the circumstances he is his own businessman, his own business owner.
SPEAKER_00So I want to get t-shirts for $25 huh? They got t-shirts for $25 on here. I need to get me one oh my God they got they got 3XL I'm not ordering a t-shirt too but I ordered every flavor and I'm so excited. Yes I love it I love it I love it shout out to this black man. Now these let me tell you something let me tell you something these are the niggas that we are talking about right here who have gone through adversity that have gone through some shit that have gone through that is that are mentally using using their business and their foundation for good and to to to help other people that's who the fuck we're talking about all right definitely we'll put the link in the bio so you guys can buy all the fucking pretzels that you want to buy um baby we're all with listen I didn't have no black business because I knew this one this one was just too good. Let's move on to twice the fire what have you been listening to what have you been watching let's I want to hear it all well I want to get into the Momo Boyd of it all amazing Momo Boyd beautiful black woman first of all her fucking sister Victory Boy forced to be brand it's I didn't realize it was eight of them and of them five are famous.
SPEAKER_02You got four in infinity song which is their like folk band which is kind of similar to like Fleetwood Mac and then you have Victory Boy who started out singing with them but got signed and had a solo card. Momo Boy released her album Miss Michigan it's like AP Miss Michigan oops American love song Big Country Cold Hands I am loving to see a black woman in America is so many black people that don't understand oh why is she trying to be you know she's trying to be white or she's trying to defend this country and there's nothing more black than a black American the motherfuckers who established and built this country okay so to see her in this aesthetic she can do folk this new song she has oops it has more of an RB sound she can do it all and I love the fact that she's not in the box. Her sister Victory song I discovered her through doing a a deep dive on um these young women in the family her voice is a little bit more older defined but her album Confessions of a Lonely Girl RB so I I relate to this I think this is what 30 something women are going through and I just I I I've never like I love when I see you see black siblings like the Jacksons or the DeBarges or you know the the Sylvester the Sylvester family the Pointer sisters and like now we got the boys. Just a beautiful black talented family with amazing music and again I want to give a special shout out and I've mentioned her before but her name is Jay Stevens I repeat Jay Stevens like Momo Boyd this is the black woman who's more so in the pop sector who can do the funky RB but there aren't really that many there aren't really any pop girls that are oppressing me. The only white pop girly that I can get into was Zara Larson. I like her I and I did like huh I say Zara Larson and Sabrina Carpenter are what does it for me yeah I like well Sabrina Carpenter she done pissed me off with that shit she said to Coachella about the the Arabic um college that was so that just gave white woman I went to college with and I just was turned off her music you know I I won't be I have what I have but I won't be checking in anything else because even her apologies just fell on fucking deaf ears but yes prior to this incident Sabrina Carpenter she didn't do it for me but I I thought Zara Larson was a complete package better singer can dance she you know she wasn't American so white white people even though white people and white people they all colonizers but they tend to white people that don't live in the states they tend to be a little bit more salty with me. Yeah yeah and what else am I listening to Kirby just dropped a new song today Love Me Some Kirby black woman from Mississippi holding the state of Mississippi on her back lose myself and another black woman in my opinion that's doing the damn thing in a non-traditional way well not in a non-traditional way I just want to say in a way that's not like geared toward a genre yeah or G Mae or or Jare May she's from she's a black British young lady fucking amazing um music is just so full it is it's that alternative RB sound that kind of took the world by storm in the 2010s I love her and I want to give a shout out to one of my favorite female rappers that does not get mentioned does not get mentioned Kid Sister you have to be a young girl in the early 2000s when Pro Nails came out and you was getting your nails done I got her toes done up with a fingernail smash most people don't know her real name is Melissa Young she's a therapist now she's part of the group Salt with Cleo Soul and their collective but kid sister her music just came back to streaming I have been listening to Right Hand High Step Life TV pronails daydreaming I have been getting into her entire fucking catalog shout out to kids sister you don't people don't talk about her like they should and she don't know how much she meant to me because before Nikki you had her doing pronails with fucking Kanye West before I you know because for me this is just me now the young quirky black girl that was rapping you had the the Rye Rise the the the Santa Golds the kid sisters the Azealia Banks of the world you had the God damn what happened sorry that's another another episode another another topic another episode Azealia Banks could have been so so good.
SPEAKER_00She could I mean she's still a fucking talent her talent is a impeccable but it just yeah yeah yeah she speaks too damn crazy and bitch you was Zionist and oh I did I ooh girl yeah Azalia is just I know I know a waste of of of potential and I love her I used to love her now I'm not even gonna lie I'm gonna tell I'm gonna tell y'all I'm gonna tell y'all my story I used to love honestly when I was younger I used to love Chris Brown I used to love like Chris Brown was that nigga for me and I'm not even fucking joking. After that like when that situation happened with him and Rihanna that literally I'm not even gonna lie because those two right there Chris Brown and Rihanna they were two of the like biggest artists that I were was a fan of right and after that situation happened and when she released Rated R, I was like damn because rated R is that fucking album I don't care what nobody says that is Rihanna project Rated R is so fucking good and then it's very raw it's very raw and it kind of hurt me because when Chris Brown released his single Deuces like that motherfucker hit.
SPEAKER_02But at the same time can't because the second album the one with the album that didn't his least his worst album Transformers the one with no I forget what it was called but it was a graffiti no it wasn't no no no it wasn't graffiti you remember he had the album with I Can Transform Ya that was the album right after the Rihanna incident it wasn't graffiti it was called looking it up I'm looking it up right now for you give me two seconds it was graffiti I was right yeah because you know he had it was the third album excuse me because you had Chris Brown first you had forever 2005 then 2009 graffiti he fell off and came back in 2011 but 2009 that was that's that had uh I can transform you in crawl I was like what was the other song but yeah and then the the other albums when it had deuces on it deuces was fame was fame yes that was an album with uh no bullshit look at me now yes yes and even through that I rocked with Chris Brown after that and then he was in the like it just for me it was kind of like then he got with Carucci and then we saw the patterns.
SPEAKER_00And then I was like the patterns and I just I couldn't fuck with it. And that's the reason because that that's the truth. And that's why what I said what I said about the truth I'm just like come on bro it's like I because that last time he had a situation with Tiana Taylor and I'm just like okay this is we at this point we too fucking old and we need to get some help at this point. But yes that's that's my my truth be it all you know um but yes um and I'm so sorry. Were you done with uh Twice the Fire Bill?
SPEAKER_02Yeah I was okay so um music wise I'm going to listen to um the Momo EP um first of all like when good flirts came out right I said shit this is like I'm still listening to Casino by um Baby King's album was so good I loved it so fucking good I love Baby King I have been listening to Don Tolliver Yes first of all that E85 song I think I said something about it last week that my fucking hit I be feeling I'm fucky drifting when I listen to it in the car I don't listen to it when I drive because bitch I speed I be fucking speeding bitch I can't listen listen last week I turned the fucking song on in the car to swerve I said oh nah I can't do that mellow ball on my swerve with that corner all right keep on keep fucking on I can't do that shit where I live you know damn well I can't baby you live with the rich stop um I've been listening to uh again Hero of the Band if y'all have not heard Hero of the Band they are an amazing first of all they're all three brothers um rock and roll like they are fucking amazing shout out Hero of the Band listen to him because of you yes and Barry Hendricks he is yes he's really good fucking Lutley okay forgot to mention somebody who Rochelle Jordan yes oh there's no black black people fucking invent the house and you got niggas in the house the Rochelle Jordans the Raven Lane the K T Rochelle Jordan bite the baby pull up to the party since me mess up don't fucking play with I've been a Rochelle Jordan fan since fucking low key and follow me bitch the early you two days where you can use music without getting your video fucking flag if you're looking for a win from shout out she was just here and I couldn't go because I had another event that I went to that night that I already had taken but she she did so good in Nashville she was just in Nashville like two weeks ago Rochelle Jordan is killing she is yeah I can see her being her trajectory being like um a CC pop a C C pen that's just real big in the house space.
SPEAKER_00Yeah yes love her down so many good artists so many fucking good artists and you know we gotta have a discussion about like just the rollout of albums and EPs and just it's just I just feel like it's just did you see the conversation between Jill Scott and Tyler the creator I loved every second of it human human I didn't see it I seen a clip of it I seen a clip of it but I know both of them next week both yes I'm gonna watch it so we can talk about it next week I love Tyler the fucking creator and I love me some Jill Scott Jilly from Philly baby still listening to that oh yes Jill Scott's album is amazing five out of five um but yes Tyler the Creator's album five out of five as well um movie wise I've been watching uh so I was told y'all seeing the drama um with Zendaya and Robert Patterson was really good it was so fucking good um it just it was a thriller it was just it was amazing and then I seen you me and Tuscany twice um I know we talked a little bit about it uh in the beginning of the podcast but that movie listen I'm gonna go I'm Hall first of all hold on give me a second y'all just how you made it I just that film it just it did it for me it did it it did it for me it starring Hallie Bailey and how do you pronounce his name Riga John Reggae John Page that nigga that was on Bridgeton the first season of Bridgeton and left and said I don't know what happened but they all wanted that nigga back on the second season but no it this movie was funny it had a little bit of um it was funny it was it was it was uh serious at some times but it was also a good mix of just love and romance um yes I that go listen niggas go support a black rom-com please we need it we need this shit okay um and Halle Bailey like I told you last week girl you are that girl period you are who you say you are um but yeah that's it I'm looking to go see some more movies this week um taking time out for my mental health taking time out for just things that I got going on outside of the podcast and um yeah I I I'm loving it. What you got going on baby before we head out that's it for me okay well niggas I know this is a um no fuck that this is the black paradigm and we're gonna be talking about issues like this so if you don't fucking like it you can unfollow us you can you know because this is the black paradigm that we're talking about black people shit okay um do I have anything else I want to shout out oh shout out the Family Reunion Network shout out Yam Pasta shout out Sisters in Sync Yes y'all that had a phenomenal episode last week you guys are fucking killing it I love it uh Yam Pasta listen we not too we not too much far behind you know Yam Pasta Mario Vic Yes sir um and we actually introduced a new person to the roster you guys will be meeting him soon he's very funny he's a little he's electric I think he's gonna fit right in at Yampasta so again shout out the Federal Union Network and our email you know what actually we didn't even say anything about our fucking email because it's it was just so serious we had to get into it listen niggas email us at the blackparadigm77 at gmail.com once again that is theblackparadigm77 at gmail.com if you want to email us and because we are looking for small production companies if y'all want to you know you know host us and get us going I'm just messing with you we need money though we need money um again my name is TJ aka TJ with the sauce my name is Ashley aka ash the great and again black men prior prioritize your mental health and black women stay armed we love you guys we will see you niggas next week peace out of the
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